The Marriage Ref

There is a new show on television called "The Marriage Ref."  Each week there are a panel of judges with Tom Papa that review clips of couples with a certain "thorn" in their marriage and Tom and this panel decide who is right, the husband or the wife.  Most of these clips are rather entertaining and it certainly makes me realize that I have it pretty good with my wife as we don't have many arguments over insignficant things.

But...I did ask Jessica one evening as we were watching what our "thorn" would be if we were on this show.  At the time nothing came up.  One evening as we just finished flipping our mattress and we were putting pillows back in pillow cases we discovered our Marriage Ref argument.

Last summer when Jessica and the kids were in Utah visiting family and I was left fending for myself I decided it was time to replace my pillow.  I went to Walmart and started browsing.  I found the perfect pillow.  At the time I didn't realize it was much different from any other pillow I had owned before.  I can't even tell you today if it is a true feather pillow or not.  I've never been a feather pillow person but this one seems different.  It's fuller and holds it's form better than typical feather pillows.  It's the perfect pillow for me.

When I got home and put the pillow in the case and compared it with my old pillow I discovered this pillow was much longer.  I learned that I had just bought a king sized pillow.  I didn't really want to return it.  I do remember thinking then "Jessica is not going to like my new pillow."

Her not liking my pillow is an understatement.  She absolutely hates my pillow while I've grown to absolutely love it.  It comes in handy when Easton comes in to our room in the morning.  He won't sleep by Jessica, he sleeps by me.  I now have a pillow long enough for both him and me without having to compromise.  It supports my head perfectly.

Jessica claims I push it on to "her" end of the bed.  And that I sleep on the farthest corner of the pillow leaving 90% of it unslept on.  She's threatened to cut the pillow in half when I'm not home.  And she had to purchase longer pillow covers because my pillow would not fit in the existing pillow cases.  I think if she would just give it a try she may actually like it.

So, alas, even we have a Marriage Ref "thorn" in our relationship.  Who wins in this argument?